I am often surprised by the reactions I receive when I mention that I've removed all social media platforms from my phone.
Three years ago, I uplifted 4th Trimester Doula from California, because my husband was transferring for work. It was a difficult decision, but I needed to focus on the birth of my fourth child, which meant stepping back from my work commitments. 4th Trimester Doula hasn't ended; it's evolving, much like how birthing individuals grow physically and mentally during the birthing journey.
Why did I decide to disconnect from social media on my phone?
Two years ago, holding my newborn daughter, I felt overwhelmed. To manage the challenges of caring for a newborn, living abroad, and having a husband who was often away for work, I chose to step away from social media to safeguard my mental health. I understood that I couldn't fully disconnect, as my roles as a mother, wife, and expatriate daughter necessitated staying connected beyond emails, texts, and calls. It might seem strange, but that's the reality of today's world.
Although initially skeptical, I noticed the significant amount of time and mental space I gained by not constantly comparing myself to others. As a lifelong perfectionist, I recognized this was essential for my personal growth and postpartum wellness.
I devised a plan to overcome my negative thoughts while caring for a baby.
Start journaling at the same time every day about anything (I began doing this on my phone).
Incorporate 10-15 minute strength-building workouts to gradually alleviate my aches and pains (both literal and metaphorical).
Attempt 5-15 minute yoga sessions to find relief through movement.
This plan wasn't flawless and isn't always adhered to strictly, but it has helped me rediscover parts of myself I thought were lost, even with four kids. I was pleasantly surprised. I've managed to consistently carve out time for myself and recognize when I need it. Now, I engage in weightlifting, read regularly, and, of course, practice yoga. These are activities I stopped before my third child was born, and now they are part of my routine! I don't let exercise dominate my life but practice it in a way that enhances it. I now crave yoga to relieve stress and anxiety and realign my kinetic chain.
My main point is that to all my birthing people out there--don't be afraid to step away from it all! We all have different roads to healing and this was mine.
What's yours?
Xx,
Maria
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